Songs I have been listening to- August 2016

It is August 31st already?!?!

My, my, this month has gone quickly, as has every month this year, to be honest! I seriously cannot wait for Autumn. (Favourite season of the year.)

This post has been inspired by Caitlin’s ‘The Ultimate Study Playlist‘ blog post, which you should defintely check out!

The difference with my post is that I am going to list some of the songs that have become favourites of mine, this month. Some of the songs that I shall list are quite new, whilst others have been out for quite a while!

  1. Gangsta- Kehlani.
  2. Friends- Francis and the lights feat Bon Iver.
  3. Bad Girls- M.I.A.
  4. Don’t Let Me Down- The Chainsmokers and Daya.
  5. The Beach- The Neighbourhood.
  6. Nothing Left To Say/ Rocks (Medley)- Imagine Dragons.
  7. Holy- PVRIS.
  8. Twice- Catfish And The Bottlemen.
  9. Holy Mountains- System Of The Down.
  10. Beautiful Crime- Tamer.

As you can probably tell, I don’t really listen to a specific genre of music- I listen to any song, as long as I like it, haha! I have so many more song suggestions on my Music Playlist on Spotify, so feel free to check that out too!

Enjoy!

Rhi. X

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Insomnia: From a sufferer’s perspective!

Hello, my darlings!

For as long as I can remember, sleeping has been a rather difficult task to say the least. Yes, I have been dealt the card of suffering from insomia. Every night, I wonder to myself before bed “Hmmm, I wonder how much sleep I will be getting tonight?.”

Anyone who suffers from insomia knows that it is ridiculously difficult to not watch the clock or overthink sleep throughout the day or whilst looking up at the ceiling, wide awake at night. (EVEN THOUGH YOU ARE ABSOLUTELY EXHAUSTED AND JUST WANT SOME BLOODY DECENT SLEEP!!)

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Some of the sterotypical symptoms of insomia include difficulty falling asleep, still feeling exhausted after having sleep, difficulty remaining asleep and getting back to sleep. I have heard some people take sleeping pills or alcohol before bed, but that is most certainly a route that I will always avoid, as I personally do not find that they are postive solutions to the problem!

It is not like I have not tried various options to try and improve my sleep. Here are some of the many things I have tried in the past few years:

  • Daily exercise and fresh air.
  • Reading a book before I go to bed, instead of looking at objects that are technology based.
  • Drinking water before bed, in order to remain hydrated through the night.

However, none of these seem to do the trick. I guess the reason could be because I have been suffering from this condition for a long period of time and my body is just being stubborn. Another reason could be down to the fact I am certainly a worrier, especially in the evening. As a Sixth Form student, it is nice to have a decent amount of sleep at the end of a busy day….but that is a dream I am yet to achieve, gahhhh!!

I think the whole anxiety and worrying thing around sleep relates to most, if not all, people that suffer from insomia. It is extremely frustrating because the anxiety around sleep is very difficult to ignore, because the more you think about your issues…Well,  the more concerned and fearful you become.

I hope this blog post has been of interest to both people who do and do not suffer from insomia. I personally find it interesting and reassuring to hear about people’s expereinces that I am able to relate to!

If you have any advice to me and fellow insomia sufferers or just a genral interest in the post, feel free to comment below or possibily share, so other sufferers are aware they are not alone in this!

Cheers, m’dears.

Rhi. X

Bank holiday thought of the day- Mistakes are needed in life!!

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Happy Bank holiday, hope you have all been embracing the fine weather!

Just thought I would share a small thought of mine, regarding mistakes and why people needs them.

We may feel awful when we make a mistake or a decision which goes wrong, but I honestly believe that life would not be life without them. Through mistakes, we learn more about ourselves, other people and how we can improve in the future.

Some mistakes can be really negative on yourself and other people, but time will pass and if you have learnt something from that mistake, you will be able to better yourself and stop the mistake from reoccurring.

Basically, mistakes are not impending doom. They are just a learning curve and an opportunity to make better things.

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Much love,

Rhi. X

Things not to say to a sufferer of anxiety.

Hello, everyone.

I would be lying if I said this was not a very personal post for me. I have seen and heard a large amount of things surrounding the stigma of anxiety and a variety of mental health issues…and it hurts. It really bloody hurts.

I am one of thousands of people fighting  the stigma that shadows the topic of mental health. However, I am not just doing it from the perspective of a mental health activist. I am also doing it from the perspective of a sufferer myself. I have to deal with generalized anxiety disorder, as well as bouts of depression, on a daily basis. There will definitely be future posts on my blog about mental health and various aspects of it, but today, I shall be raising awareness of anxiety disorders and helping people that do not have the disorder understand what to not say to someone with anxiety. ❤

  1. ” You’re overreacting”

People who are suffering from an anxiety disorder are aware that they are being irrational, but that does not stop the panic or anxiety that they are experiencing, especially if they are suffering from it on a daily basis. If anything, telling them that they are overreacting will make things even worse because the person will start to panic that they are being irritating or are being a burden. (Guilt is a big part of an anxiety disorder.)

2. ” There are people suffering from larger issues”

Yes, there are people suffering from larger issues, but people forget that having an anxiety disorder, or any mental health disorder for that matter can cause absolute havoc for a person and actually can be really dangerous/ terrifying.

3. “It is just in your head.”.

It may be a mental health disorder, but there are physical symptoms too. I personally suffer from pretty bad physical symptoms, as do a few of my friends who suffer from anxiety. Stomach aches, feeling or being sick, feeling faint and even suffering from IBS are only some of the many physical symptoms that a person with anxiety may have to cope with. It varies with the individual though.

4. “Everyone gets anxiety.”

It is normal for everyone to get anxiety once in a while, but when you are suffering from constant anxiety and fear over the smallest of things, that is when it becomes an issue and can become extremely severe. In a variety of cases, it can lead to other mental health issues.

5. “Just meditate.”

This one especially upsets me. Now, as much as I agree that meditation can be a great way to control anxiety and can work for some people, other people are unable to control their anxiety through just meditation and need more help and support, in order to be able to cope, WHICH IS OKAY!! Anxiety affects individuals in different ways. Some people can keep keep their anxiety under key through self help and care, whilst others have to look to therapy and possibility medication if self care is no longer working.

6. “It will go away.”

That’s the thing. Anxiety and other mental health issues are not the same as physical health issues. With a physical issue, you can usually get rid of it, eventually, as long as it is not too severe. With a mental health issue, it is more complex than just taking a pill or wearing a sling for a couple of weeks. Any underlining mental health issues that you may suffer from will always be there. They may not always be in your face, because you may be controlling it well through self care, therapy and/or medication. However, they will never disappear and can reappear at any point in your life because of the smallest of thing. It is about keeping an eye on your mental health and having the tools to fight through when things are becoming bad. You never stop running a race.

7. “Just get on with it.”

It is never a good idea to say this because not only will this make the person with the anxiety  feel even more anxious, it may also lead to a panic attack occurring. Forcing them to do something is going to create more of a negative impact, not a positive one.

If you think you may be suffering from an anxiety disorder or you are someone who wants to know what would be appropriate to say to someone with anxiety, I have attached links below:

http://www.nhs.uk/conditions/anxiety/pages/introduction.aspx

http://www.nhs.uk/conditions/panic-disorder/pages/introduction.aspx

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/10/16/what-to-say-anxiety_n_5978918.html

http://www.calmclinic.com/anxiety/tips-for-friends-family

http://www.nhs.uk/Conditions/Obsessive-compulsive-disorder/Pages/Symptoms.aspx

I know this would have been quite an intense blog post, but I hope it was of help to both anxiety sufferers and non- anxiety sufferers.

Rhi. X

 

 

 

How do you become an organised person?

Those who know me understand I get stressed.

VERY, VERY STRESSED.

As I am becoming older, life is becoming extremely busy and chaotic, especially as adulthood approaches. Balancing both the social and work aspects of my life, whilst keeping on top of the many everyday tasks that are thrown at me and so many other people.

However, having a busy life does not necessarily need to be so stressful if you know how to organise your life accordingly, so you are able to keep up on tasks of all sorts without ending up in a procrastination based situation. Yes, that’s right, we have all been there and done it. I am generally a rather organised person, but I have had times I have fallen off the band-wagon. To refrain this from occurring on a regular basis, I use a variety of tips to make sure I keep organised. Here we go:

  1. Write a to do list/ bullet journal: Some people like to keep a To Do List and others prefer to keep a Bullet Journal. I personally write lists, but have been considering trying out the journal method. Whichever of the two you decide to go with, they will both allow you to keep on track of outstanding work/tasks that need to be completed, as well as helping you to know what you are supposed to be doing on that particular day and when it needs to be done by. Additionally, they are also good for prioritizing different tasks, so you can move the most important ones to the front of your agenda!

2. If at all possible, complete work given to you asap: Now this one is more of a difficult tip to maintain, but it really does help if you are able to complete work as soon as possible after you have received it. Not only will you feel more organised, but you shall also not fall into the rift of procrastination and end up panicking at 10:30pm at night because a piece of work is due in the next day and you have not even started it. (It happened to me once when I was 14….Never again!!)

3. Tidying is a good thing: Tidying is always a good thing to do, in order to feel organised and in the zone for getting things done. It allows you to get rid of any old items in your possession which are of no use anymore, plus you may re- find items which you believed had been lost for ever in the depths of despair under your bed.

4. Sort your email inbox into different folders: I am afraid to say that I am one of those people who feels uneasy about seeing people have over 300 emails in their inbox!! I personally stop this from happening myself by putting different emails in a range of folders that relate to their importance or topic area. It is also good to regularly loom through your inbox, so you do not miss any emails of importance and can trash any that are not needed anymore.

5. Breathe: It is all well and good following techniques to become a more organised person, but it is important to also take a deep breath and believe in yourself that you can get tasks done, instead of rolling yourself into a stress ball. ❤

 

If you have any other tips, feel free to comment below!

I hope this was of help, everyone! Until next time.

Rhi. X