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Guest Post: The ins and outs of living with both depression and an anxiety condition.

Well hello everyone!

The latest guest post is from the lovely Anne, speaking out about her experiences of battling both depression and anxiety alongside each other. Enjoy! X

Hi guys! I’m Anne. today I am going to be discussing what it’s like to live with depression and anxiety. If you like posts about travel and mental health you can find me at
http://www.foreverthewanderer.ie/wp. A huge thank you to Rhianna for the opportunity to guest poston her wonderful blog. So here is my post!

Let’s Talk About Depression:

Depression is not just a word for feeling sad a lot. Depression is an illness. Yes you may not beable to see this illness like you can see other “ more important “ illnesses as you would believe.
DEPRESSION IS JUST AS IMPORTANT AS OTHER ILLNESSES.

Close to 800,000 people die from suicide each year!
800,000 people who felt they had no other choice than to end their lives. Depression is
living in a body that wants to live but a mind that wants to die.

Depression to me is feeling numb, not caring about the world around me and not really caring about my own health. Depression is not being able to concentrate when you have a lot of work to do. No motivation to be productive.

Feeling alone in a crowded room. It’s not just mental pain and anguish, you also get the
headaches, back and neck pains. All the physical aches and pains that come for the ride to.
Depression is waking up in the morning to stay in bed all day, not eating or overeating, not brushing your hair and isolating oneself. All the negative thoughts running through your mind. The demons becoming stronger and stronger, dragging you into the dark tunnel of suicidal thoughts, possible self harm and many other terrible things.

And What About Anxiety?
Anxiety is when you have someone sitting on your chest, preventing you from breathing properly and thinking clearly/ logically. You are unable to explain how you feel when you try to talk to someone else because honestly, you have no fucking idea what is going on in your own head.

Having anxiety is almost like having a voice following you around whispering dark thoughts of self doubt, relationship doubt, friendship doubt. It knows all your insecurities and pins them against you.
Things that don’t usually bother you get stuck in your head and continuously repeat over and over, making you feel stupid. It isolates you from everyone else because you are the only who can hear this voice.

Anxiety is overthinking every possible situation you have been in, thinking about everything you could have done and said differently. These thoughts keep you up at night. You’re unable to be in public or in social situations for long periods of time because your anxiety gets the better of you. You feel alone, that you are being judged and so many other things. It’s not fun.
I didn’t realise that I stayed at home and avoided going out with people or groups due to my anxiety. I just thought I was awkward and unsociable until I was diagnosed.

The Isolation of having both anxiety and depression:

Living with both depression and anxiety is absolute hell. It’s like being scared and tired all at the same time. You are constantly in fear but at the same time you don’t care. You feel useless and numb all at once. You are a bundling mess of mixed emotions. Not caring, yet overthinking.
Mental illness is not a joke. People suffer with it every single day. Yes they may be smiling, laughing, being outside with friends and looking happy- That doesn’t tell you what is behind the seemingly pretty smile.

PLEASE be considerate towards other people. You have no idea what someone could be going through behind closed doors.

Again a huge thank you to Rhianna for allowing me to guest post on her blog! If you’d like to follow me, here are my social links:

https://www.facebook.com/loveroftravel12/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/foreverthewanderer/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/foreverwander12/
Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.ie/foreverthewanderer/pins/

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Balancing Social Media And Your Mental Health- Guest Post.

Hi y’all,

Today, I bring you a guest post from Charlotte, who gives advice on balancing your mental health when it comes to the use of social media. Social media can be an amazing tool for mental health advocacy, but to make the best of it, you need to acknolwedge when and how to turn off and focus on your own wellbeing. I’m sure this post will be of use to you all- Much love, Rhi. X

(P.s If interested in writing a guest post for my blog, regardless of your previous experience with blogging, be sure to contact me via my blog or through social media. Xo)

Charlotte’s Blog Post:

I live with mental illness, I have done for as long as I can remember. I don’t actually remember a time when I wasn’t the way that I am now. However, in the last year, I have become a mental health advocate of sorts; it’s something I had never planned but I now wouldn’t change it for the world. I’ve finally found my passion and purpose.

But like everything in life, we need to remember to balance our mental health and ensure that we are not giving too much of ourselves away. Sometimes, It can be easy to obsess over Instagram or Facebook, it’s easy to compare yourself to others and overly push yourself to be better. There is nothing wrong with self-improvement but at the end of the day, trying is what counts.

Blogging is something I am passionate about, luckily it’s not a competitive industry but there are times when I can feel my mental health failing because of running my blog. It’s very easy for me to look at successful bloggers who are younger than me or who have only had their blog a short while and wonder why I am not as good. It’s easy to look at the stats and think that your writing is terrible or ineffective. You can see here how easy it is to get wrapped up and take away from something that is supposed to be fun.

I started to write because I found it to be a form of therapy. I liked that it helped me manage and understand my own thoughts and feelings better. When I found out that my words were helping others, it seemed like something so special; and it is. We need to remember that no matter what we do, if it started as a passion, you need to remember why you started because, at the end of the day, it was never meant to be a task.

I mention often on Twitter about how much I feel like a failure and how I am not doing enough for others. I get very insecure on some days and even angry at myself for not being as amazing as other mental health advocates on Twitter. Jealousy is a basic human emotion for sure. It seems that I am so desperate to make a change, that I inadvertently live in the past where I was often overshadowed; it’s funny how much of our past can influence our personalities.

So, it’s incredibly important for me to manage social media as well as my mental health, because, like many of my followers, friends, and family, I suffer too.

Learning to put my phone down and eat is a big thing for me, or when I have a conversation, I get so scared that I won’t be there for someone in need that I am completely detached from the real world; in moments like these you need to remember that the world can’t be helped if you are not living.

Allowing yourself time off has been a major recent discovery, the last year I have been basically working on my writing and blogging and helping others 24/7 for free. I literally did not have a holiday until over a year into this new world of mine and when I finally let myself have time off, I remembered how nice it was to smile and take in my surroundings. We often miss some of our best memories because of our phones.

Balancing my workload is also a new thing, I used to get so excited when I had months worth of work to do in a week. I liked to be busy and there is nothing wrong with it. Except, I got very tired and my motivation went, I literally felt like a sim on low energy. When you are asked to do things for others online, it’s easy to agree and drop everything but remember that you have needs and sleep, rest, and actually doing something else are incredibly vital for your mental health.

At the end of the day, I know I have an addiction to social media, I think that most people in my generation do. We were raised into this new world and we know very little outside of it.

You need to ask yourself, has your phone replaced your friends? Your identity? Your education? Your basic needs? Because if it has, even just a little bit, then you need to take a step back and adjust. You do not need to sacrifice anything, just learn that the world will not stop because you have not checked your phone overnight – I mean, why don’t you try turning it off before bed? I’m sure the sleep will be much needed. 🙂

Twitter- @CUnderwoodUK

Blog- https://charlotteunderwoodauthor.com/

Education Vs Mental Health.

Hello, darlings!
My deepest apologies that it has been so long, I am currently in the midst of taking my final A-Level exams, so as you can probably imagine, life is busy, busy, busy! However, I will be posting much more regularly and there is some very exciting stuff on it’s way. On that note, I thought I would write a post on education and mental health, whilst also giving tips on how to look after yourself, especially through stressful periods, like exam seasons.

We have all been there, or are currently going through it. Do not get me wrong, I am very appreciative to have had a free, wonderful education that has helped me to develop into the young lady I am today, especially as I love learning, but I would be lying if I said that it has not been a factor that has been intertwined in my mental health situation. As I become a University student in September, I feel that education and mental health do share factors that need to be discussed. Especially in recent years, education has become more challenging for students and in many cases, detrimental to young people’s mental health. Why is that? In my opinion, it is because students are working extremely hard, yet with not much mental health support available. It has only been a recent development that mental health is being discussed in places of education and students are starting to be taken seriously. Further to this, teachers/ lectures are defintely not receiving enough training on how to support young people to high standards when it comes to mental health and that is an issue I am very passionate about. I am from a generation that is seeing the highest ever figures of mental health issues in young people and without significant support and advise from those in education, how the hell are young people supposed to make the most of their education without stable, reliable support?!

I have a large amount of love and kindness for teachers, some of whom have been so important in helping me through issues, but I do believe that there is so much more that needs to be done to protect students!

There have been many times that I have had breakdowns, due to the intensity of schoolwork and not wanting to let people down; I know that many other people that surround me have also had very similar situations, and in the longterm, has been one of many factors that lead to poor mental health. More funding in schools and knowledge about the issues that young people face today are so important, especially in a time where the world needs to be sharing much more love and peace to others and themselves. I thought I would leave some suggestions on how can you can help your mental health whilst in education:

  1. Confide in those you trust- Friends, family, your doctor, your teachers. The worst thing that you can do for your mental health is to suffer in your silence. By speaking out, you are not battling your mind alone, and you will be also helping others who are going through a similar situation. Speaking out will be an influence in getting schools to educate themselves on how to support their students. You also have to take care of yourself, and by confiding in those around you, you are facing the issue, instead of hiding, before your mental health has the chance to escalate.

2. Sleep, food, and water- Your mind will be under a large amount of strain, please try to not allow your physical health to also be taken under.- I know that is difficult when you’re mental health is in a bad place, but even attempting to look after yourself physically will help. Self care is extremely important, as I have preached before and undeniably, if you are taking exams, being physically healthy will make going into them a much bearable experience, allowing you to perform at your best.

3.  Do not over work yourself- There have been many times when I will overwork myself because I feel that there is more to be done or what I have done is not at its highest standard; give yourself breaks. You are doing wonderfully and working yourself into the ground will do you no favours. Yes, it is important to work hard for what you want, but it is also important to have fun and enjoy yourself too! To everyone, student or not, finding a positive balance can lift a large pressure from your mental health.

4. Praise yourself- Being in education can sometimes have negative effects on your self-esteem. Please do not allow that to get in your way. Give yourself praise and some reassurance that you are doing your best and that you shall reach your aspirations and dreams. Try and distract yourself with things that you enjoy to allow yourself to block negative thoughts.

I hope that this post has been of interest to you all, please let me know what your views are of education and mental health!

A little side note; the mental health organisation ‘Time To Change’ recently published a blog post that I wrote for them in regards to their latest mental health campaign; you can read it here!

https://www.time-to-change.org.uk/blog/it-can-be-terrifying-open-about-mental-health

Until next time!

Much love,

Rhi. X

We do not speak about loneliness enough.

The topic of this post is pretty self explanatory when you look at the title, and it is the undeniable truth. We do not talk about the subject of loneliness enough.

Stereotypical images that are perceived in our minds about loneliness are incorrect. The shadow does not just creep onto a certain group of people. No, loneliness affects us all and that is bloody terrifying. You can be one of the most sociable and happiest of those that you know, and you can still suffer from loneliness.

We are all in different walks of life; trying to find where we belong. Of course there are struggles, and loneliness can be one of them. It does not matter about your age, ethnicity, lifestyle and personality. Like anything to do with our mental health, it can prey on anyone at any point. I am sure many of you will have seen Tumblr posts about being surrounded by loved ones, yet feeling alone? Yes, I know it is so clique, but it is also true! I personally believe it is because that if we go for a long period of time without having conversations that allow us to express our emotions and thoughts, we become lonely in ourselves, regardless of how social we may be.

Having poor mental health and loneliness are often linked. I also believe that you can have good mental health and still get feelings of loneliness sometimes, because it is a natural human feeling. As a society, we avoid the topic of loneliness and I do not really understand why. I guess it is because we do not want to be a burden to others or for people to be judgmental.

IT IS SO IMPORTANT TO TALK ABOUT IT THOUGH. We are a species who should be connecting with each other, and that is why we usually become lonely when we are not satisfying our mind and soul. We all have traits of being stubborn when it comes to wanting to avoid feeling vulnerable and needing to express emotions. The thing is, if we do not talk about loneliness and seek comfort/support from those around us, it can have such a detrimental effect on our mental health. I would say I am in the category where my mental health can cause me to feel lonely, and I am one of those people who can be surrounded by friends and family, yet feel so empty on occasions. For other people, their loneliness causes them to have negative mental health. No individual is the same and loneliness affects people in different ways. Unfortunately, loneliness works in a vicious cycle.

If you click here, you will be redirected to the Mind website that has a lot of useful advice about coping with loneliness, as well as tips to how to get out of that cycle! The one piece of advice I would give is to reach out to those around you; even if it is just sending a message. Please do not suffer in silence. Also, if any of you would like to personally contact me, you can find all the ways you can do so via the contact section on my blog.

Much love,

Rhi. X

 

 

How to motivate yourself when you aren’t motivated at all

I highly suggest this blog post for anyone who is having a crap day, it was of help to me!

 

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The Black Cat Blue Sea Award.

This award is for bloggers who strive to write for everybody, and no matter how many viewers they get, make an impact on a reader.”

Hello, lovelies!

It is really lovely that I have been nominated for this award. My appreciation goes to the wonderful Confessionsofareborngirl, whose a fab blogger which y’all should check out!

Here are my answers to the 3 questions I have been asked to answer!

  1. Who’s your favorite singer/band right now?

To be quite honest, I am into a lot of different singers and bands right now from a whole range of genres. All I can say is that my favourites include The Neighbourhood, PVRIS, Metallica, 30 Seconds To Mars, ScHoolboy Q, Bastille, Grimes and Twently One Pilots.

2. Where do you get the inspiration for your blog from?

The people around me in everyday life, my interests, as well as a variety of topics that I come across. I love running a blog which suits to a large range of people about loads of topics!

3. What’s your favorite thing to do on a rainy day?

On a rainy day, I love to be as snug as a bug in a blanket, drinking hot chcolate, and reading a book or watching a film/TV programme. That being said, I usually am forced to face the rain as I have to be on my way to places such as Sixth Form or other plans I have made! Haha, oh well!

My 3 questions are:

  1. Why did you begin blogging?
  2. If you could live anywhere in the world, where would it be and why?
  3. How do you like to spend your free time?

I have inserted a copy of the rules and who I have nominated below…..Thank you once again for the nomination! Much love,

Rhi. X

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7 Lucky Nominees:

Boilersuitbabe

Robertapimental

Houseofhorrors

Unveilingtheincogitable

Akinderway

Thecliffhangerchronicle

Theshimmerwithinher

 

 

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Article: Moods Magazine.

Hello, everyone!

So the other day, an article which I wrote was published on Moods Magazine, which can be found here: http://www.moodsmag.com/blog/talking-mental-health-important/

Moods Magazine is used to help people who are suffering from depression or a mood disorder, as well as the friends and family of someone who is suffering from a mental health disorder. My article talks about my personal experience of mental health and why it is so important to be aware of how important mental health is and why the stigma needs to be stopped.

Feel free to read it and let me know what you think.

Rhi. X

 

This is defintely  a blog post from a fellow blogger that is worth a read- Being able to embrace yourself is important! ❤ 

I originally shared this post in February, but I thought it fit my Mental Health Series well so I’m sharing it again today. I had a bit of an ‘ah ha’ moment recently, which led to me thinking about how hard it is for most of us to embrace who we are. To truly like […]

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